On Honoring Your Husband
by: Sara Daigle
When we see womanhood as beautiful, we become much more loath to allow disrespect be a part of who we are. Respecting others, especially our husbands, is a sign of healthy self respect. There are few things as becoming to a woman as visible signs of respect to others, especially toward men, and even more, our husbands.
Disrespect is ugly. Pure and simple. We’ve all seen it– this unhappy woman who doesn’t hesitate to correct and belittle her husband in the presence of others. Sometimes the guy deserves it, but it makes no difference; it is always ugly. Happy is the woman who respects herself and her husband enough to entreat him in private over his need.
Let’s consider the meaning of a few words in 1 Peter 3.
SUBJECTION: According to Strong’s, the meaning of the Greek word for this is “to obey; to be under subjection to.”
QUIET: keeping one’s seat; still; undisturbed
“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.
Do not let your adorning be external— the braiding of hair, the wearing of gold, or the putting on of clothing– but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good, and do not fear anything that is frightening.” (1 Peter 3:1-6)
Obeying one’s husband is not considered the cool thing to do. Women who obey are viewed as weak and dependent. May I propose to you that women who honor, respect, and obey their husbands are women of strength and character which cannot be denied; that to respect a man takes more courage and dignity than to control one’s own life? That it takes more faith? More love?
In essence, women who have these qualities possess an adorning described by God as “very precious”.
“Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel – rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” (1 Peter 3:3-4 NKJV)
GREAT PRICE: extremely expensive; costly; very precious
Costly and precious ornaments are nearly every woman’s dream, but there’s no need to head for the jewelry section in the mall to be adorned with something extremely precious. God considers a respectful heart of greater worth than any outward beauty. We can rest assured our husbands will also consider this a greater treasure. Just as every woman desires beauty, every man wants to be honored and respected.
“To be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God may not be blasphemed.” (Titus 2:5 NKJV)
DISCREET: sound in mind; self controlled (moderate as to opinion or passion)
CHASTE: clean; innocent; modest
God calls us to abundant life. Only after sin came into the world did we change to women who wear on our husbands instead of bring life and blessing. A woman who doesn’t walk in God’s way has potential of causing the Word of God to be blasphemed.
BLASPHEME: vilify; speak impiously (defame, rail on, revile, speak evil of)
Many women profess to know God, to walk with Him in a deep way, to love Him. They serve His people and are actively involved in wonderful things. But many of these same women do not honor and respect their husbands. These women are in danger of bringing dishonor to the Word of God as people see their lives not match up with their words.
Disrespect for one’s husband can be sensed quickly. Respect is a heart attitude and can also be sensed quickly. A woman who does not respect her husband will show it in many forms she may not even be aware of.
When God created woman, He took a rib and fashioned her from it. A rib is close to a man’s heart. God made us beautiful, delightful, to be a helper suitable for our man. Where has that delight gone?
Instead of being inviting, we have become grasping. Instead of supportive, controlling. Instead of finding our place in God’s world, we lose it as we try to find our life in this world.
Let’s come full circle, lose our pride, and uncover the very thing that will draw our husbands to us more than ever. Let’s return to peace, to the original plan. Let’s dare stand against culture, and sink into peace.